Comparing yourself to others does not make you feel worse because comparison itself is the problem. It makes you feel worse because of which comparisons your mind reaches for first, and what you are actually measuring against what. I watched this pattern surface in people who, by any outside account, had built good lives. This … Read more
The drive to compare ourselves to others is not a flaw in the way we think. It is a feature. Social psychologist Leon Festinger proposed in 1954 that people evaluate their abilities and opinions by comparing them to others, particularly when no objective standard is available, and that this is a normal process of self-calibration, … Read more
Comparing yourself to others is not a character flaw. It is one of the oldest habits the human mind has, built into how people figure out where they stand when there is no clearer measuring stick. Most advice treats comparison as something to eliminate, but the more honest distinction is between the kind that quietly … Read more