How to Be a Better Listener: What Listening Actually Requires

How To Be A Better Listener

Most advice on how to be a better listener focuses on technique: maintain eye contact, paraphrase what was said, nod at the right moments. These things are not wrong. But they do not get at what makes someone genuinely good to talk to, which is harder to describe and less comfortable to examine. This piece

How to Forgive Someone Who Hurt You (Even When They Haven’t Apologised)

Forgive Someone Who Hurt You

Most people trying to forgive someone who hurt them are blocked by a version of forgiveness that has nothing to do with what forgiveness actually requires. They think it means accepting that what happened was okay, releasing the other person from accountability, or agreeing to repair what was broken. None of that is true. What