When a major life role ends, a marriage, a career, a long-held purpose, the loss is not only of the thing itself. It is of the daily structure that told you who you were. Most people going through this expect to grieve what they lost. Fewer expect to feel genuinely uncertain about who they are … Read more
Most people who cannot make themselves start over have been told, in one form or another, that what they need is more motivation or a better plan. What they have rarely been told is why the wall they keep running into is not a motivation problem at all. The real difficulty of starting over is … Read more
Most people expect the hard part of a life change to be the change itself. What I watched, across two decades of sitting with people at the end of their lives, was something different: the hardest stretch is almost always the in-between, the period after the old version of life has ended but before the … Read more