How to Use Regret Productively Without Being Consumed by It

How To Use Regret Productively

The standard advice about regret offers two options: suppress it, or let it drive you to immediate action. Neither captures what regret is actually for. Research on the subject suggests regret carries two pieces of information worth reading: a signal about what you value highly enough to feel its absence, and a cue about what

How to Forgive Someone Who Hurt You (Even When They Haven’t Apologised)

Forgive Someone Who Hurt You

Most people trying to forgive someone who hurt them are blocked by a version of forgiveness that has nothing to do with what forgiveness actually requires. They think it means accepting that what happened was okay, releasing the other person from accountability, or agreeing to repair what was broken. None of that is true. What