How to Stop Holding Grudges: Why Letting Go Is For You, Not Them

How To Stop Holding Grudges

The longest conversations I ever had with people about a single event in their lives were almost never about something they had done. They were about something done to them, kept alive through years of retelling until the retelling started to look less like memory and more like residence. Knowing how to stop holding grudges … Read more

How to Forgive Someone Who Hurt You (Even When They Haven’t Apologised)

Forgive Someone Who Hurt You

Most people trying to forgive someone who hurt them are blocked by a version of forgiveness that has nothing to do with what forgiveness actually requires. They think it means accepting that what happened was okay, releasing the other person from accountability, or agreeing to repair what was broken. None of that is true. What … Read more