self-punishment

How to Stop Punishing Yourself

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How To Stop Punishing Yourself

There is a kind of punishment that outlasts every other kind, the one a person decides on themselves and keeps applying long after it has stopped serving any purpose. If you want to know how to stop punishing yourself, the real obstacle usually is not a lack of self-compassion. It is a belief that suffering

Why Is It So Hard to Forgive Yourself?

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Why Is It So Hard To Forgive Yourself

Self-forgiveness is harder than forgiving someone else, and not for the reasons most people assume. The difficulty is not about the severity of what was done. It is structural: there is no external party to direct the release toward, the person who caused harm has access to every detail of it, and forgiving themselves can