Why do I need everyone to like me is a question that sounds, on the surface, like simple vanity, but it rarely is. Most people asking it are not chasing admiration so much as checking for an absence of withdrawal, proof that no one quietly stopped caring. This piece looks at the difference between the
The need for control is not a character defect. Research has consistently shown that having a sense of control activates reward pathways in the brain and reduces stress; the drive to influence outcomes is built into human psychology for good reasons. The problem is not the drive itself. It is what happens when that drive
People who have lived through most of the future they once worried about tend to say the same thing about it, quietly and without being asked: most of what they worried about never happened, and the things that did were almost never the ones they had seen coming. This is not a case for stopping